Carl's Z

Anybody here been thru a divorce where YOU were ordered to pay child support?? Need some questions answered.

Thanks in advance

Carl

PS: PM me so it will be discreet if necessary...

z-hag

CARL----I WAS ORDERED SUPPORT MANY MANY MOONS AGO--IT WAS NEVER PAID--I KNOW A LOT OF THE RULES IN CALI--oops--sorry--didnt mean to yell--if ya want--i yam smart ----pm me-----

entropy31

oh man, sorry carl. i have never been married, and really dont plan to ever be, but my folks divorced like 15 years ago, and still have not got over it, and of course i get caught in the middle of the BS (big part of the reason i dont want to marry). so i cant answer your question, but i offer the advice that you do everything you can to not drag the kids into it. it realy sucks for the kids, trust me.

Carl's Z

Thanks, Entropy and Z-hag. Yeah, I'm gonna try and keep my 14yo daughter out of it as much as possible. I'm still gonna be a big part of her up-bringing. We're pretty close...

Z-hag, I'll PM ya tomorrow and test your knowledge. LOL! Remember, I'm in AZ, so it could be a little different. It's mostly about responding to the petition and support amount stuff...

Thanks again

Carl

z-hag

i know so much i yam scary........i will do my best for ya--and i have resources if i do not know it, it will be somewhere lookupable or askable.....

youz guyz cannot agree on joint custody????? just an idea.........that way kiddo has 2 parents who do nt live together and sometimes i sbest------have a notanyfamilyanymore family meeting and ask the kiddo--let her have her voice if it is not too late, mon.........and it is never too late, if aLL agree----------that way neither parent divorces the offspring--just each other------consider--just a thought......

skittle

Hell If You Really Wanna Screw Your Wife Ove Rmy Co Worker Has A Divorce Seminar That He Has Perfected. His Last Ex He Ended Up Getting About 20k From Her.... Evil Evil Man....

thxone

Hey, I thought a child over the age of 13 was able to make the choice on who he/she wanted to live with, which parent I mean. Or is it 15? Are you willing to give some details on this divorce or would you rather not? Just remember, it is not the child's fault and they should never be pawns in a divorce....not saying you would do that but I have seen many divorced friends of mine do it. Stuff like trying to make the other parent look bad in front of the child or letting the child get away with things they normally wouldn't while one parent has custody or visitations. Divorces suck man.

entropy31

****, i am 25 and still feel like they try and use me as a pawn.

Carl's Z

Well, here's the deal. My wife and I talked about 3 days before I signed for the receipt of the petition. She said all she wanted was for me to pay half of any medical costs for my daughter, and that she didn't want child suport. I told her that I would help out when needed, and she seemed fine with that. So I pick up the papers 3 days later, and there's a worksheet made out for support, and support is added into the "wants" of the petition. She denies having asked for it. She should have just come to me and asked if she could get a hundred or so per paycheck, and I would be fine with that, but she didn't even talk to me about it.

The situation is this now. I JUST got a job with Norwegian Cruise Lines as a Group Reservations Agent. It only pays $10.40 per. The worksheet has me AND her both listed as making $1803.00 gross. I make $10.40, she makes $12.00. Do the math on both, and see what you get for 160 hours. Also, I'm staying with my sister and bro-in-law on a lazy-boy in the living room. My wife has a mobile home and 4 working adults in her home (daughter, son, and daughter's boyfriend). If she gets the $361.00 she's got listed, then I'll be netting MAYBE $900.00 a month, while she has 4 incomes plus that to live on. The way I figured that is I REALLY gross $1664.00. Maybe $1300.00 after taxes (Being taxed at a singles rate, and thats being optimistic). She takes $361.00, leaving me with (optimistically) $939.00 if I'm REAL lucky. How am I gonna live on that, while she's got 4 incomes, plus my $361.00?? I can't stay at my sister's forever (55+ mobile park).

I'm on the virge of an ulcer AND a heart attack at the same time. Already had a heart attack once, and they don't feel good. I'm just REALLY irritated and venting. Sorry for the long-winded post...

Carl

skittle

it will work out in the end just stay focused

tekanitrus

better you vent to us that put the excess strain on your heart man..


Vent away..

j.

z-hag

get the papers to say joint custody, no support due either party.

then work your own deal with mom........for real, mon.......